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Do you have a chronically angry kid in your home?
- Does it feel like your child is angry more often than not?
- Are you worried about how this constant tension can affect your homelife - and afraid to learn the answer to that?
- Do you tiptoe around your angry child so that you won't set him off - again?
Please help! I feel like I've hit a brick wall with my child!
Does your family feel fragmented? Do you long for more closeness?
Thankfully, this is a scenario that you can do something about - and you can start right now.
Here are a couple of things you can do right away to make forward, positive movement.
1. Read through the free short report "10 Ways to Reconnect With Your Family". This report will encourage you to take control of your family's everyday schedule and intentionally build togetherness. You will never regret taking the time and effort to do this and you know what else? Building a tight-knit family means you are automatically empowering your kids to listen to you as they grow and stay close to your influence.
That's what healthy relationships are all about.
IMPORTANT: If you are struggling with a disruptive youngster, you know you need to help your child in his frustrations. If things have just started to get challenging, you may wonder if you even have a problem or not.
2. Print out our Behavior Log. Use it to keep track of your child's behavior for a week or two. Then you'll have a better idea of what you're really dealing with. Doing this one thing can help give you clarity and perspective.
3. Is the situation with your angry child still more than you know how to handle? Then take a deep breath and another step towards finding the right solution for you and your child. Head over to Empowering Parents where you will find an enormous amount of articles and conversation written by common sense experts and other parents who have been in the trenches, too. I have found this can really help.
Dealing with angry children is a frustrating and exhausting way to spend your day.
Angry children feel that way for a reason.
An important task for a parent is to try and figure out the why behind your child's chronic anger.
Sometimes the anger has an obvious source.
Sometimes the source of a child's anger is not so easy to see.
- Family upheaval, such as divorce, an unwanted move, or serious illness can leave a child feeling helpless. For many kids, it's only a short step from feeling helpless to feeling angry.
- Personal upheaval, such as a best friend moving away, problems at school or feeling like no one is listening at home.
- Normal growing up stressors that can cause feelings of overwhelm.
- Too much violent, angry media of any kind (music, video game or movie usage) can contribute to an ongoing sense of anger.
Stop the cycle of an angry kid.
It's easy to react in kind when your child shows anger at you. I know. I've done it myself with my own kids.
However, that rarely helps the situation. Your angry kid needs you to stay calm, focused and in control.
Start with a deep breath and count to 10 (or 100!) if you need to.
THINK before you speak. It even helps to think about what you want to say to your angry child ahead of time, when no one is angry. Role-playing in this manner will give you a distinct advantage in the middle of a heated moment. Use behavior modification strategies to get a handle on individual behavior struggles.
Be a dispassionate observer. You'll be amazed what you can learn about your own child, angry or not, when you sit back and simply observe. It will also take some of the fire out of your confrontations, which will help everyone stay calmer.
Here is a helpful article for you in regards to parenting angry children. Anger as a Weapon, When Your Child 'Points the Gun' at You.
Keep educating yourself about how to help angry children and definitely listen carefully to your own angry kid. Don't stand for any disrespect, but let your child know that you care deeply and want to hear her out - in a calm and respectful manner.
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Colleen Langenfeld is a mother with over 29 years of parenting experience and helps other busy moms around the globe at www.paintedgold.com.
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