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Do you have a chronically angry kid in your home?
Could you use a little perspective in your parenting?
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- Does it feel like your child is angry more often than not?
- Are you worried about how this constant tension can affect your homelife - and afraid to learn the answer to that?
- Do you tiptoe around your angry child so that you won't set him off - again?
Dealing with angry children is a frustrating and exhausting way to spend your day.
Angry children feel that way for a reason.
An important task for a parent is to try and figure out the why behind your child's chronic anger.
Sometimes the anger has an obvious source.
- Family upheaval, such as divorce, an unwanted move, or serious illness can leave a child feeling helpless. For many kids, it's only a short step from feeling helpless to feeling angry.
- Personal upheaval, such as a best friend moving away, problems at school or feeling like no one is listening at home.
Sometimes the source of a child's anger is not so easy to see.
- Normal growing up stressors that cause feelings of overwhelm.
- Too much violent, angry media of any kind (music, video game or movie usage.)
Stop the cycle of an angry kid.
It's easy to react in kind when your child shows anger at you. I know. I've done it myself with my own kids.
However, that rarely helps the situation. Your angry kid needs you to stay calm, focused and in control.
Start with a deep breath and count to 10 (or 100!) if you need to.
THINK before you speak. It even helps to think about what you want to say to your angry child ahead of time, when no one is angry. Role-playing in this manner will give you a distinct advantage in the middle of a heated moment. Use behavior modification strategies to get a handle on individual behavior struggles.
Be a dispassionate observer. You'll be amazed what you can learn about your own child, angry or not, when you sit back and simply observe. It will also take some of the fire out of your confrontations, which will help everyone stay calmer.
Here is a helpful article for you in regards to parenting angry children. Anger as a Weapon: When Your Child “Points the Gun” at You
Keep educating yourself about how to help angry children and definitely listen carefully to your own angry kid. Don't stand for any disrespect, but let your child know that you care deeply and want to hear her out - in a calm and respectful manner.
More parenting articles for you.
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Colleen Langenfeld is a mother with over 25 years of parenting experience and helps other busy moms at http://www.paintedgold.com.
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