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Tough love for teenagers.
Does tough love work?
What is it, exactly?
These are important questions if you have an out of control teen or pre-teen in your home.
Please help! How do I raise my teen or pre-teen?
As a parent, do you have more questions than answers?
Back talk, defiance and disrespect do NOT have to be daily visitors in your home. Start by taking control now.
1. Read through the free short report "Raising Teens". Make sure you are covering the fundamentals in parenting your son or daughter.
IMPORTANT: Don't disregard this information if your child is not yet a teen or if you have younger children in the home. A huge secret to successful parenting is prevention. By reading this report and using the behavior log (explained in point #2) you'll be getting a jump on handling your growing child's needs today.
Believe me, solving a seven or ten year old's problems is a lot easier than solving a fifteen or seventeen year old's problems.
2. Print out our Behavior Log. Use it to keep track of your child's behavior for a week or two. Then you'll have a better idea of what you're really dealing with.
3. Is the situation with your teenager still more than you know how to handle? Are you wondering about more tough love for teenagers ideas? Then take a deep breath and another step towards finding the right solution for you and your teen. Head over to Empowering Parents where you will find an enormous amount of articles and discussion written by common sense experts and other parents who have been in the trenches, too. I have found this can really help.
It doesn't matter if you need to know how to stop back talking or seriously improve the level of respect in your home.
Tough love means
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Deciding what you mean.
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Saying what you mean.
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Enforcing what you mean.
Did you know that this type of parenting, using tough love compassionately, is a huge relief for your teenager?
Now they don't have to guess, wonder, worry, or figure out what you expect from them. They know. They may not like it, and they don't always understand it, but they know.
And that creates an atmosphere of stability and trust.
Here is an excellent article that addresses the issue of tough love for teenagers, without even calling it that. Are You a Mother or a Martyr? How Much is Too Much When DOING for Your Child?
Tough love for teenagers, or any age child, is a simple idea that can be tricky to put into practice.
And I have found that is the key: practice.
It also helps to have another adult to vent a bit with when you need to. By all means, find a parenting mentor, someone who also practices tough love with their teens or kids and support each other in this exciting adventure.
Also, remember what tough love for teenagers is NOT.
- Yelling, screaming, hitting, or abuse of ANY kind.
- Pretending to be your teen's friend when you really have to be the authority.
- Ignoring, avoiding, or belittling your teen in any way.
If you want to know what parenting program I can recommend that helps parents with struggling kids, that would be The Total Transformation program, hands down. Part of why this program works is because it supports parents extremely well.
The concept of tough love works because it combines firmness with compassion. So the next time you're tempted to simply give in or go along with your disrespectful teen, remember, there's a better way.
Tough love.
More parenting articles for you.
Program for Troubled Teens
Out of Control Teens
Advice for Parenting Problem Teenagers
Problems of Many High School Dropouts
Colleen Langenfeld is a mother with over 29 years of parenting experience and helps other busy moms around the globe at www.paintedgold.com.
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